Update on Mom...
Has it been a week?/!
Yes, it has! And, it has not been the easiest...too many things going on; too many decisions to make; and honestly, almost too much to cope with.
Tuseday morning I rushed mom to the hospital and she was admitted to their ICU unit. My daughter, Tara, arrived from Phoenix later that night or early Wednesday morning depending on what you consider 12:40 a.m. to be. Sister arrived from Tampa Wednesday night at 7PM.
When we arrived Thursday morning Mom had been moved out of ICU. We all met with the doctor - and he stated that he felt she would not return to the level she had when she was living at home...and that he felt she had weeks or months left.
We jointly made the decision to go to comfort care status (along with keeping her blood sugars stable) and let nature take its course. There will be no tubes or tests. She will not be poked and prodded to find out what caused this episode. She has a Living Will where she made her wishes known years ago...and we intend to honor those wishes.
So she was moved to the nursing home unit of the hospital where she will live the rest of her days in a pleasant and caring environment with activities and health care matched to the level of her capabilities. As her doctor said - she is not in pain...and she is living in a "pleasantly demented state of mind" and that isn't a bad place to be.
We liked the nursing home unit...it is pretty, bright, and they are very caring there. They offer many things that will keep her happy as well as some wonderfully holistic therapies (like aromatherapy, music therapy, and arm and hand massage). They also know that she is Scarlett's M-I-L...and Scarlett does work at that hospital.
Actually, I was expecting a lot of arguments from my daughter. She and her grandmother have a wonderful relationship...but, Tara was the first one to say that this would be the best for her grammy...
So, after ten years of caring for mom...I have had to relinquish that role to others who are more capable of giving her the care she needs. It has been very difficult for me - and I have wavered more than once...but she looked so peaceful yesterday and was smiling and talking to me...and we shared QUALITY time...instead of me being in Caregiver/Nurse mode.
It is like suddenly I have all this time and I don't know WTF to do with it all!